tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post2838602017200976710..comments2023-10-25T05:05:00.272-07:00Comments on Reflections: Forgive YourselfAnupam Patrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-35017632226006800902014-08-25T19:13:44.345-07:002014-08-25T19:13:44.345-07:00Absoultely Saurabh. Thanks for reading and sharing...Absoultely Saurabh. Thanks for reading and sharing your views.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-81344538102428980752014-08-25T19:12:55.270-07:002014-08-25T19:12:55.270-07:00Cant deny that Renu. Thanks for readingCant deny that Renu. Thanks for readingAnupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-89518309601566154442014-08-25T09:35:30.150-07:002014-08-25T09:35:30.150-07:00A moral lesson here to be learnt :) A person shoul...A moral lesson here to be learnt :) A person should always love himself/herself which makes them lovable. Saurabh Chawlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13196713748152957748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-4229038316451824842014-08-18T06:15:53.382-07:002014-08-18T06:15:53.382-07:00At times you know you need to forgive yourself. Bu...At times you know you need to forgive yourself. But your heart plays the party-pooper, it doesn't let you forgive nor forget. You land up blaming yourself all ur life. (in)sane mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739717709114125146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-83534076932885293602014-08-13T07:48:19.099-07:002014-08-13T07:48:19.099-07:00Yes Anupam makes sense. A person who is in the thi...Yes Anupam makes sense. A person who is in the thick of things has the best idea of what he is enduring. It gets worse when people act differently, allowing speculation within that person to breed. It just takes its toll on the adversity of the situation.<br /><br />And yea, I think we ought to learn from our history to take a stand on matters as they are and not be allowed to sway where the mob does. In contemporary times, I think the problem has been the mass following of misled ideals and the (mis)allocation of resources for the benefit of the nation.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804396793756259881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-48998681601284137132014-08-12T23:15:16.929-07:002014-08-12T23:15:16.929-07:00Thank you Induji. Good to read your feedback as al...Thank you Induji. Good to read your feedback as always.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-11722116194712114752014-08-12T23:01:30.034-07:002014-08-12T23:01:30.034-07:00Profound--you say it like no one else canProfound--you say it like no one else canindu chhibberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17755152757229783585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-90078925617534151112014-08-12T01:59:38.610-07:002014-08-12T01:59:38.610-07:00When a person is going through tough times, it bec...When a person is going through tough times, it becomes a test for true companionship as it is then only when a true companion will stand by you. So it is not a rule of thumb that sorrow repels close ones, although the real struggle is always of the man himself who is facing that misery no matter how many people may give him emotional support. Therefore, and I say this from experience, notwithstanding the company one may have at times of distress, he alone must face it and emerge with his own learning. No one can ofcourse deny that the presence of a supportive friend or a partner may ease my pains to some extent and help me fight my challenges. But my learning will come from my own struggle alone nevertheless as I will be the one who will actually be facing the difficulties.<br /><br />Abut the struggle of a group, one example which comes instantly to my mind, is that of our struggle for our independence. A great many men of courage and conviction fought together side by side for our independence. They stayed together and led support and contributed to each others' struggle and in turn it became the struggle of the nation. And we all emerged free and wise. I wonder if there were another struggle for freedom (God forbid) we will use our learning, taught to us through history, from our first freedom struggle and fight unitedly.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-62232556868347038572014-08-12T01:12:49.934-07:002014-08-12T01:12:49.934-07:00Hey Anupam
Yes it does make a lot of sense to me n...Hey Anupam<br />Yes it does make a lot of sense to me now and it does resolve a lot of my apparent confusion. However, your point raises another corollary - if a person is so drawn to happiness, is it that people closest to a person will begin (albeit unintentionally) to shun the person in distress, allowing him the opportunity to discover himself and gain that wisdom and experience you spoke about? Your example cites a person in the midst of life's lows who has to endure and forge his own battle to come out wiser and more experienced.<br />Is it possible for an entire group of people to be in the same low at a point of time, become wiser together and come out with a fresher perspective to life? Do you think people will also stay together during such times of distress or will the typical self-sustaining principle come into being stronger than helping others in need?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804396793756259881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-50709641594027691772014-08-12T00:52:10.413-07:002014-08-12T00:52:10.413-07:00That's right Sweety. Good for you that you cou...That's right Sweety. Good for you that you could forgive and move on. All the bestAnupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-58874033838428343182014-08-12T00:51:36.695-07:002014-08-12T00:51:36.695-07:00Thank You Datta.Thank You Datta.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-3736365909076679442014-08-12T00:43:11.473-07:002014-08-12T00:43:11.473-07:00Dear Siddharth,
Have you heard of the saying ...Dear Siddharth,<br /><br /> Have you heard of the saying 'share you sorrows they will lessen and share your joys they will multiply"? Ever wondered why it is said so. Perhaps the answer lies in the most basic truth of life, that man is more drawn to happiness than sorrows. Which is why there is a greater chance of ending up lonely in your sorrow than in your happiness, which in turn is why all the great proverbs are based on man's teaching in how to deal with difficult times as he is likely to require much greater strength and summon much more will to confront challenges than he is in dealing with joyful times. Once it is done, once the phase passes, it is natural to feel enriched in wisdom and experience. And it goes without saying that experience becomes a learning automatically. This is where, according to my humble opinion, lies the answer to your very thoughtful query.<br /><br />Having said that, there is no reason why we cannot learn from our highs also. I mean, to start with, one can learn what it took him to be happy and elated and joyous, and he must then keep that learning in his mind and try to stick to it.<br /><br />"twas lovely to read your views Siddharth and thanks for your continued encouragement.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-1267509268303943842014-08-12T00:28:30.939-07:002014-08-12T00:28:30.939-07:00Fortunately I have forgiven myself & moved on....Fortunately I have forgiven myself & moved on. Few of those memories still haunt, but I shrug them. We are here to make mistakes n keep going!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09410764210008841290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-46289013302719764272014-08-11T22:22:57.740-07:002014-08-11T22:22:57.740-07:00Such a positive post!! Yes forgiving ourselves is ...Such a positive post!! Yes forgiving ourselves is the best gift to ourselvesDatta Ghoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08375800182580592805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-39052863246241531542014-08-11T20:49:11.834-07:002014-08-11T20:49:11.834-07:00It's ok Sunny. We are what we are. All I can s...It's ok Sunny. We are what we are. All I can say is that when it becomes difficult to move on, come to terms with your state and say to your worries 'For all the pain you'd give me, I'd still look forward to touch the light". <br /><br />Try this and let me know.<br /><br />Thanks for reading and candidly sharing your view.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-17156634214053051562014-08-11T20:46:28.197-07:002014-08-11T20:46:28.197-07:00That is perhaps the truth. Thank you Rajrupa for r...That is perhaps the truth. Thank you Rajrupa for reading and for your words.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-8982944092303969592014-08-11T13:20:32.967-07:002014-08-11T13:20:32.967-07:00A wonderful post, as always. I just have a discuss...A wonderful post, as always. I just have a discussion to start here, if you don't mind. It is related to your post and the core message and life's philosophy in general.<br /><br />Why is that, in life, we have to go through the troughs to learn about the peaks? Why is it that we have to learn only when we are down and low? Why can't we have the moment of self-awareness at our peak? Why can't we learn the most from life when we are at the zenith of our being? Why does it have to be at the abyss of our life?<br /><br />Would love to get your inputs this...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804396793756259881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-15609955502945291042014-08-11T10:15:32.042-07:002014-08-11T10:15:32.042-07:00Nicely said and agree that we should move to live ...Nicely said and agree that we should move to live a happy life but you know forgiveness is never easy with common people. People like me can not easily forget our deeds/past and easily move and so we suffers. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-39184928165458201782014-08-11T08:41:35.985-07:002014-08-11T08:41:35.985-07:00Forgiveness - it's difficult to achieve.... It...Forgiveness - it's difficult to achieve.... It's even harder to forgive yourself... but when you can, you can achieve NirvanaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14419458025432181836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-70281995193918015672014-08-11T07:13:58.184-07:002014-08-11T07:13:58.184-07:00Thank you for your appreciation Yamini. I agree wi...Thank you for your appreciation Yamini. I agree with what you've shared.<br />Thanks againAnupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-41945541385847857572014-08-11T07:12:07.870-07:002014-08-11T07:12:07.870-07:00Brilliant piece of writing. "There will alway...Brilliant piece of writing. "There will always be a reason to give up, to surrender to darkness and to break. But there will also be a reason for hope, for breaking free and for embracing the light." Absolutely loved this line. Above all one learns from each and every mistake in ways one won't if that mistake isn't committed and that's the process of life too. So forgiveness is one thing one should learn and that automatically paves the path for moving ahead in life :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-88577361284529691822014-08-11T06:27:45.373-07:002014-08-11T06:27:45.373-07:00Thanks for reading Chaitali. I agree that people w...Thanks for reading Chaitali. I agree that people who are able to forgive themselves and embrace their reality are supposed to be much happier.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-42598078515976989312014-08-11T06:25:45.915-07:002014-08-11T06:25:45.915-07:00Great article for day to day survival tip with an ...Great article for day to day survival tip with an important aspect of self improvement....awareness and acceptance and being thankful about what you are or have is an art towards self contentment...and the people who have it are much happier.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-84648944157381373762014-08-11T06:19:46.181-07:002014-08-11T06:19:46.181-07:00I can say only this, that you are fortunate for ha...I can say only this, that you are fortunate for having the ability you say you have Jitesh. <br />Thanks for reading Jitesh.Anupam Patrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179237569294043987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541136381262666757.post-17860130302218588982014-08-11T06:14:47.353-07:002014-08-11T06:14:47.353-07:00I don't know anupam, if it's just me, or i...I don't know anupam, if it's just me, or if people are being modest! The easiest person, I could ever forgive, and which I invariably do, is me! Maybe I'm too light on myself, or maybe I havn't thought it through, like, ever! But haan, something to think about...HahahaJithesh Prabhakaranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02974189600540233136noreply@blogger.com